Author: MJT
Retirement and Nursing Homes – What Your Aging Parents Need
There will come a day in nearly everybody’s life when you
make a transition to a managed care center. Your parents need to be emotionally
strong to make a smooth move from their home of many years to a retirement and
nursing home. Ensure that you do not just
bombard them with the news, but rather involve them in the decision making
process. Prepare them for this in an adult to adult conversation:
1. Try your best to initiate a good conversation regarding
their dreams, fears and other feelings after retirement. Enquire about
everything that interests them – and try to weave along the unsuitability of
their staying at home alone and uncared for.
2. Always talk like adults talks with one another. It does
not matter what you talk about, just speak with confidence and have respect for
the other person’s point of view. Give a
very logical reason on how you have reached this decision.
3. Always ask for their opinion. Show it logically and voice
how your concern for their well-being prompted this action.
4. Another great way of getting the ball rolling is to
highlight the advantages and disadvantages that a retirement and nursing home
has over staying alone. The first thing is definitely companionship. Then there
is the possibility of having other things to do such as playing cards, chess,
writing, knitting, reading club, etc that can be initiated in retirement and nursing homes.
5. Parents can be very much like your five year old –
stubborn and horribly sharp tongued when needled. Do not take anything to heart
about what they say – because most likely they are doing so because they are
scared about this change in their lives – and they actually may be dreading it.
6. Be reasonable with them – ask them to give you
alternatives to retirement and nursing homes, if they do not want to move. The
alternatives should be reasonable, and should not involve their staying alone
at home since it could be very dangerous for all concerned.
7. Get the parent or parents see a doctor who will recommend
round-the-clock care. Be very careful about the reasons you mention when you
send them to doctor. They should never get to think that they are unwanted or
that you would want to get rid of them.
8. Be sure that you spend as much time possible with the
parents as long as they are with you, as well as in the retirement and nursing
homes after they start living there.
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